11 Feb 2021 21:25
Congrates on child and condolences on spending power.
11 Feb 2021 23:12
Congrats Hanto and bungleski! Our second was born just before Christmas . FUK lockdown kids!
12 Feb 2021 00:01
Congrats on the bairns everyone. Our first baby arrived 7 weeks early on 2nd December. Fair to say it was a stressful time but things going well now.
12 Feb 2021 07:58
Congrats and welcome to the club, best/worst perfect thread for it too!
posted 22 May 2021 05:39, edited 22 May 2021 05:39
"Best": I'm having a child.
Worst: I fucking hate the person it's with and I'm too mentally unstable for it.
How the fuck do you deal with this shit I can't function right now. Panic attacks non stop I just want to fucking run.
I hate the situation but I would never not be there for the child and she's making it clear she doesn't want me involved. I'm fucking going through a traumatic experience.
22 May 2021 06:26
stop the gear mate, things will get better from there
22 May 2021 07:59
Talk to someone is the best advice I can give. Having thought about killing myself in the first fortnight of having our baby, it was a massive help to be open about struggling and get help, either practical or medical. If you feel comfortable.
22 May 2021 08:34
Completely anecdotal dreep but I do know people who have had an unexpected kid, had a really rough time through pregnancy, barely speaking etc. but still managed to become civil and be there for each other and the kid by the time it comes, so it is possible.
22 May 2021 10:43
Sounds tough, feel for you man. it’s a long road though and you will eventually find a way that works.
Pregnancy is a rollercoaster and there’s a lot of emotion and change that happens for the mum - she might be making it clear now she doesn’t want you involved but than can change.
Go softly I reckon, offer support and try to show that you care about the child - which it is clear you do - and that your motivation is to be there for them.
Don’t try to ‘fix’ it straight away it’s a complicated situation and will take a while to find an amicable solution - and it will change constantly as the child grows! But down the road you will be able to be there for your child and develop a relationship with them. It’s a long journey.
Hardest fucking thing I’ve ever done, but trust me it’s also the most rewarding thing in the world. You’ll find a way and it will be ok.
22 May 2021 11:14
Best of luck mate. You can do this.