Had a similar situation - felt like topping myself after 6 months.
I know your in East Sussex as well right? Trains in the evening are murder!
Hanto dont do it!
The commute is the main thing, and always will be. If it was local (1hr or less), it would be far less of an issue. I am Chichester Rick, so yeah 20 mins to station, then 2hrs on Southern Rail and then the Northern Line, to Old Street. My current company, if I have to go to London, is an office by the Shard so is no distance to travel at all. Plus my commute at the moment to my actual office is driving through the South Downs, so is pretty idealic, and never really deviates in terms of how long it takes.
I guess the key thing is how many people here have changed job for money and found it rewarding, and how many have not and found their life balance more rewarding.
As I say, the role is likely to be 3 days in London, at most, a week, but the pay increase is 57%.
I could possibly get a similar job locally, but not working in the same sector, software wise. It's a part of SaaS that genuinely interests me, but the other company has just had a huge round of funding and feels like it is going places.
But seriously, I would be thinking about chances of getting a similar more local job if you went for it and it didn't work out.
Could be stuck commuting in for a long time and generally be pretty unhappy. No guarantee WFH will continue as they promise either. Would need to be an increase plus sound out being fully remote by default… Could mean salary is less as no London allowance tho.
How much more Vis and Real McCoys can you get though?
The other issue is, naturally, being nearer the RMC flagship, Clutch Cafe, any Vis stockist, and of course, pretentious coffee shops!
With the new baby situation, it sounds very tough (without knowing your exact situation). What does your missus think of it?
That commute would be a killer. I was commuting from east to west London for about a year and a bit, train/tube/train and it killed me. What kind of hours do you work? Is there scope to WFH?
She is supporting in whatever I want to do, but is certainly mindful of my mental health at the moment. Currently on an increased dosage of Sertraline and taking CBT again because of the baby! However, what she did say is that it could be worth sounding out to see what the whole thing looks like. Even if the fit is not right now, we think it could be good to entertain at least, just to show willing at this stage, as things may never get better where I am currently.
The irony is I only had to do 6 months of commuting to London before (Farnham to Farringdon), to know I wouldn't like it. But that was nearly 7 years ago. I may see if I can factor in the commuting time into the working day itself, so if I am online, whilst on the train, it doesn't consitute just doing extra work, but is actually part of the day.
The pros are the earning potential with a company moving in a solid direction and professional/personal development.
The con is the commute and strain from that.