did booze ruin your mates marriage?

Sorry to hear that man. Hope you can support him through it

Anyone properly smart with PC builds? I don't know fuck all but looking for a decent workstation for home freelance stuff, got a couple of options in front of me but dunno what im looking at.

I can fully recommend the AMD Ryzen range for CPU to keep the costs down. They've come on leaps and bounds in the last two gens.

I've gone with the MSI Tomahawk board paired with a Ryzen chip, which I can't fault.

M.2 Storage and SSD drives for storing and quick boot times etc for your OS with a large capacity optical drive for the heavy stuff.

thanks guys.

Have sent him home a few times and I have employed someone else to help out while he is dealing with stuff. Just so frustrating that he blames everything on his drinking. But the drinking is what causing all the problems.

He just says it’s a habit and he just needs to get out of it. Also he isn’t drinking spirits or in the mornings (pretty much only cider) so because of that he justifies it as he just likes a drink.

Yep I am pretty sure there are issues he needs to deal with
That are causing the need to drink. I managed to get him to see the GP a while ago. But all the doc did was say he was depressed and gave him anti depressants.

Zoom AA meetings might not be bad shout. He refused the contact information I got for our local one. But I hadn’t thought about them being online based.
Cheers

I would say I’m almost at the level you would class as a functional alcoholic. A normal week would be just go to the pub most days and sit and drink pint after pint until the bar closes. Lockdown done me a massive favour as I don’t drink at home and this caused me to find other things to do, what I think is the solution. For me drinking was mostly boredom so if you can maybe find things to do with him this will reduce the amount of time he spends drinking and might help ease his drinking. Things I would suggest would be going for a walk and general exercise. At the start of lockdown I was going for a 3 mile walk, then 5,10,12 and kept pushing myself all the way upto a 20+ mile walk one day. I also tried running a few times and it made me realise how unfit I was. I would recommend this rather than AA and that, and if you can go for walks with him even better because if he’s drinking because he’s depressed or something is troubling him he might open up about it.

Sorry to hear that mate.

Lost 2 of my best mates to suicide on not dissimilar trajectories… Marriages broke down, moved from heavy drinkers to kind of functioning alcoholic territory in both cases, one also doing lots of coke and racking up debt in the process too.

On top of the good advice about encouraging AA etc, I would recommend setting up a regular activity or something, like maybe just go gym together, cycling maybe, or something like that? Weird one is freshwater/wild swimming, I do that with mates now and there's a kind of odd, but very supportive community around it, even just up at highgate men's ponds, especially in the winter.