General Discussion: The life advice thread. Never do, say, eat or drink anything without asking how to do it in here first!


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swede
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8308 posts since 21/3/09

18 Jul 2018 16:19
can someone please explain why you would consider taking the points over doing the course? to me it just sounds like you are all a bunch of socially awkward nan kids who can't handle being in a room with some other people who can't drive

point means increased likelihood of insurance hikes, as well as making it much harder to rent vehicles when needed no..?
MrW
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2608 posts since 1/8/11

18 Jul 2018 16:39
swede wrote: it just sounds like you are all a bunch of socially awkward nan kids who can't handle being in a room with some other people who can't drive

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Seventyfour
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8862 posts since 6/10/05

18 Jul 2018 20:24
How long do points last?
eazypz
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3074 posts since 16/4/10

19 Jul 2018 06:11
Three years I think. However, insurance asks for convictions within the last five.
Brian Damage
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7996 posts since 21/10/03

19 Jul 2018 07:21
They're removed after the 4th year
saxonheights
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344 posts since 17/8/11

19 Jul 2018 10:30
I always take the points, I could spend that 4 hours doing something I like.
carlos
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942 posts since 20/1/08

19 Jul 2018 18:39
Applied for a job - internally - that I didn’t get. Replied to my “sorry you were unsuccessful” email from my gaffer and he replied that I didn’t get the job because he has other opportunities that he’s earmarked me for.

Surely that’s not on? what if I don’t want the other options?

Anyone had similar?
burny
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5797 posts since 25/5/06

19 Jul 2018 18:43
Guy’s just weak and doesn’t want to let you down, so trying (and failing) to dangle a carrot. IMO
generic_guy
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9349 posts since 16/9/02

19 Jul 2018 21:14
Sounds like you weren't what they wanted for the role but he doesn't want you to leave and go elsewhere.
Could be worse.
swede
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8308 posts since 21/3/09

19 Jul 2018 22:37
^exactly how I would interpret it
carlos
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942 posts since 20/1/08

22 Jul 2018 09:50
yeah that's pretty much what I got from it, despite numerous "when not if" conversations about the position before I actually pulled the trigger to apply. If he hadn't have alluded to the fact that it was a dead cert, I wouldn't have bothered. Annoying but that's life I guess.
collizhun
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3880 posts since 19/10/06

31 Jul 2018 11:47
What's correct amount of money to give as a wedding present?

Only invited to reception, relatively good mates but through other people who have known him longer so didn't make the main event. Was invited on stag but couldn't go.
illwill
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3792 posts since 17/5/04

31 Jul 2018 12:35
50 if there's a free bar. 30 if not.

Best to club together with mates to sort something half decent though. Voucher for a nice restaurant or something always goes down well.
shego
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1563 posts since 11/12/07

1 Aug 2018 04:45
Any contractors / freelancers? Need to setup a limited company and sort an accountant etc. Looking some advice please!
collizhun
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3880 posts since 19/10/06

1 Aug 2018 08:44
illwill wrote: 50 if there's a free bar. 30 if not.

Best to club together with mates to sort something half decent though. Voucher for a nice restaurant or something always goes down well.

Wants money for honeymoon - no free bar - get some tickets for few free drinks.

I thought £50 was alright.
collizhun
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3880 posts since 19/10/06

1 Aug 2018 08:45
shego wrote: Any contractors / freelancers? Need to setup a limited company and sort an accountant etc. Looking some advice please!

Contracted under Ltd company for 6 years until recently. PM me.
Rez
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8035 posts since 5/4/09

14 Aug 2018 09:00
Hi all has anyone successfully negotiated down the price of a house?

Our building survey has come back, and we've got quotes for everything that had a '3', that urgently needed fixing. We've calculated all of this and have asked for a (quite conservative in our opinion) reduction of 17k.

The vendor has come back and has dismissed everything the surveyor has said, often with anecdotal evidence of 'We've never noticed the bathroom leaking' or 'we paid a builder to do these works and he said this wouldn't be a further problem'.

I'm not sure they've got evidence for half of their claims, but they've said the quotes were too high (all tradesman recommended by chartered surveyor) and have therefore dismissed every single one of them, and are giving us a 1k reduction 'as a gesture of goodwill' on the condition that the contracts get exchanged quickly.

They're massively taking the piss, right?
swede
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8308 posts since 21/3/09

14 Aug 2018 09:27
they are taking the piss. what is the point in doing a survey otherwise? melts
misled
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4264 posts since 3/1/02

posted 14 Aug 2018 09:28, edited 14 Aug 2018 09:28
completely taking the piss. Obviously refuse to believe that anything is wrong as they don't want to lose money. Are you the only people to have put an offer in? You could ask them to get their own survey done to prove that the issues exist. Has their agent said anything?
Rez
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8035 posts since 5/4/09

14 Aug 2018 09:37
Cheers for getting back folks.

estate agent has said that the 'survey wasn't that bad' and that some buyers don't even do a survey! Typical crap about it being an old house, but if it's an old house you need to do the upkeep on it to make sure it's not in a deteriorating state.


One other person put an offer in, but they chose us (our offer was asking price) because we're first time buyers with no chain.