21 Dec 2009 18:04
I'm in a bit of a conundrum. Me and my mates booked a Jap restaurant last saturday for a christmas meal, which we all paid £10 deposit on. Obviously the snow came down and we couldn't get to the restaurant, but the Jap said we could rearrange it for some time this week. It looks as though they're going to book it for Wednesday when most people can go, but i've got a works christmas do. Should i ask for my deposit back from my mates seeing as though i paid based on it being on the saturday? It's only £10 but i feel as though i'm being fucked over a little.
21 Dec 2009 18:07
dont bother asking for it imo
21 Dec 2009 18:08
I'm sure everybody is doing other stuff this week so surely your day is gonna be inconvenient for somebody else in the group?
21 Dec 2009 18:13
Don't know for sure yet, but Wednesday seemed to be the popular choice.
21 Dec 2009 18:36
tell them to give it as a tip
25 Dec 2009 15:39
We wish you a Merry Christmas.
25 Dec 2009 16:16
I need to voice something, and any advice would be appreciated man:
To cut a very long story short, my mum's boyfriend who has been living with us for 4 years now is 32 and my mum is 50. He has no real career plans, let alone a career yet and he works as a social worker for an agency on probably close to minimum wage, he barely even works 10 shifts a month and when he does all that he does is bring a patient round to ours for a chat with my mum, or takes him on a day trip.Ever since he moved in he suddenly started splurging - about 3 months in he got a new 30k car, two 4k mountain bikes along with overpriced kit all adding up to a lot of cash. That was the beginning, since then he got into land rovers, bought a couple of off road pieces of shit and lost money selling them in the process, still has one that is never used. When he first came I believed he was contributing to it all but as more and more things have been getting purchased it's just came to the point that it's obvious my mum is paying for it all. My sister told me she found some bank statements showing that my mum just tops up his account sometimes which has really shit me up. In his typical week he will work maybe 1-2 shifts at work in the day, aside from that he just goes biking all the time for fun, he's not even a racer/ coach or anything. In the evenings he will stay in with my mum drinking beer watching TV, buying takeaways.
I feel like my mum is living in a dreamland, and I'm sure she is just in deep with him and thinks that she can settle and be happy with him for the rest of her life but if you do the math on there ages, that's probably not going to happen. Since she sold her business the company that bought it have offered her part time work on really good money which would of been perfect for the family, but she's declined every offer It's as if she's losing touch of the real world, and I think it's him influencing it all.
I woke up this morning to find out he had bought a new bike (6th one in the garage) which is about 3k. About two weeks ago I heard him begging to get a new bike because he needs one to ride for when he takes the dogs out. That's something that he does instead of working, takes the fucking dogs out on bike rides to the local forest and my mum thinks that's a real input. I know there are people with worse step parents or whatever, but it's just fucked up to see all this happening now. My mum and dad worked damn hard all there life to live the lifestyle my mum does now, and this guy has effectively just strolled in and is doing fuck all. I think my mum was having an affair with him about 7 years ago when she told my dad to leave too after he lost all his money.
Sorry if that's all a bit of a jumble but hopefully you get the idea. I'm not trying to boast about my parents career or anything like that, I just want to tell it like it is and the ways that i think he's affecting my mum. The question is, do I let all this carry on and trust that my mum hasn't lost her mind and knows what she's doing, or do something now? If I spoke up i would have my older sister and brother's support. Apologies for this on xmas day, but the bike sparked it.
25 Dec 2009 17:41
An agency social worker will earn plenty fwiw where does the close to minmum wage idea come from (does he frequent any mtb forums btw)
25 Dec 2009 22:29
sounds pretty shit dude. but what can you do?
talk to your mum about it and let her know how you feel.
ps - pm me if he wants to shift the cervelo.
25 Dec 2009 23:16
Let your mum know how you're feeling 87, guy's a wasteman.
26 Dec 2009 00:00
^ basically thats all you can do mate. how she reacts to it is another matter but you r pretty much powerless