General Discussion: The life advice thread. Never do, say, eat or drink anything without asking how to do it in here first!


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MLI
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5173 posts since 6/10/09

posted 13 Jun 2020 14:32, edited 13 Jun 2020 14:32
seenmy wrote: I think you just have to really look at what you honestly want, if an industry being competitive is a concern or off putting but you also want to have a competitive salary you probably need to consider which is more important as the 2 pretty much go together.. and i think that applies to all industry creative or not.

If your not under pressure to have a larger income you really should weigh up what you want from life, and what sacrifice you want to make and what you expect it to return you financial or otherwise. is this change primarily driven by the desire to grow personally or economically , is it coming from you or is it being driven by seeing your peers go off and get 'proper jobs'

I would advise looking to get work experience/internships in the areas you feel would be rewarding for you, get in to those environments and gain a better practical understanding of the job/industry and the rolls within it, you can't beat first hand experience to give you context and this can then feed in to choices about training etc 3 months of interning will give you a much better picture and cost you less even if unpaid than doing a course

No matter what your wanker privileged self thinks 50% of people just take the job they can get.
joeyjojo
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4303 posts since 24/8/06

13 Jun 2020 16:32
9 months paternity! And I thought mine was good. Jeez it’s like socialism actually works eh
Doogan
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749 posts since 13/4/14

13 Jun 2020 16:38
You can take it in 3 tranches over a two year period (with agreement from your manager).

I'm thinking a month after the baby arrives then 8 months when my wife goes back to work.

Cool
Ulster_Blue
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5355 posts since 16/7/06

13 Jun 2020 17:27
i took 3 days Sad always regretted it.
LFC
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4587 posts since 14/6/11

13 Jun 2020 17:49
If you can afford it defo do it. I took a month but I only work 12 days a month so it was great even after that was over.



We have a holiday booked to Rhodes at the end of August. Currently holidays are cancelled until 10th July with First Choice who we are booked with. Does anyone know whether it’s likely we’ll be going?
joeyjojo
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4303 posts since 24/8/06

13 Jun 2020 18:06
Hopefully be okay then. We’re planning to booked to come back to UK end of July and wondering
swede
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8910 posts since 21/3/09

13 Jun 2020 18:11
got first week of august booked off work. doubt I'll be able to go anywhere. fucking SEETHING. first time I've ever used annual leave and spent it in my flat
FrIEND
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13588 posts since 27/11/03

posted 13 Jun 2020 21:34, edited 13 Jun 2020 21:34
ismvil
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1298 posts since 16/9/11

posted 13 Jun 2020 21:35, edited 13 Jun 2020 21:35
I have a trip booked in August, BA called me last week assuring me it’s going to go ahead FWIW
DuffMan
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14381 posts since 21/2/07

13 Jun 2020 22:18
Doogan wrote: Cheers. I'm in Edinburgh. I have to confess that I have no idea how the housing market will go. It doesn't seem to be going down (for the few houses that are currently available).

I'm pretty lucky in that my work will give me 9 months off and I plan to use the bulk of that when my wife goes back. Hopefully I have a family member who can help with child care as well but it's not guaranteed.

There were 7 notes of interest in this property and my offer will be subject to selling my flat, so a good chance we wont get it anyway. If we do miss it, it's not the end of the world.

Whereabouts you buying in Edinburgh?
crutch
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457 posts since 22/11/12

14 Jun 2020 04:56
Doogan wrote: You can take it in 3 tranches over a two year period (with agreement from your manager).

I'm thinking a month after the baby arrives then 8 months when my wife goes back to work.

Cool

9 months is amazing! I took the standard 2 weeks when our daughter arrived and then 1month shared leave when she was 9/10 months (my gf therefore had 11months off). We took the month together and it was the best part of the whole year.

Short version - if you can take a bit more time together when the baby is bit older it can be a really fun time as a family.

Also on the initial expense - it’s worth looking second hand for things like prams - it’s mad how little some items are used and you can save a lot.

Is there much outdoor space/park etc near you? I know when I was at work and it was just my gf looking after the baby she really appreciated the garden come the summer (ours was born in November). She wouldn’t want to be going far as it’s mad how much you have to take!
Doogan
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749 posts since 13/4/14

17 Jun 2020 07:21
DuffMan wrote:
Doogan wrote: Cheers. I'm in Edinburgh. I have to confess that I have no idea how the housing market will go. It doesn't seem to be going down (for the few houses that are currently available).

I'm pretty lucky in that my work will give me 9 months off and I plan to use the bulk of that when my wife goes back. Hopefully I have a family member who can help with child care as well but it's not guaranteed.

There were 7 notes of interest in this property and my offer will be subject to selling my flat, so a good chance we wont get it anyway. If we do miss it, it's not the end of the world.

Whereabouts you buying in Edinburgh?

Looking at the Duddingston/Mountcastle area. East Edinburgh.

I missed out on the house. We bid 50k over the valuation as well. Came a close second apparently.
Doogan
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749 posts since 13/4/14

17 Jun 2020 07:25
crutch wrote:
Doogan wrote: You can take it in 3 tranches over a two year period (with agreement from your manager).

I'm thinking a month after the baby arrives then 8 months when my wife goes back to work.

Cool

9 months is amazing! I took the standard 2 weeks when our daughter arrived and then 1month shared leave when she was 9/10 months (my gf therefore had 11months off). We took the month together and it was the best part of the whole year.

Short version - if you can take a bit more time together when the baby is bit older it can be a really fun time as a family.

Also on the initial expense - it’s worth looking second hand for things like prams - it’s mad how little some items are used and you can save a lot.

Is there much outdoor space/park etc near you? I know when I was at work and it was just my gf looking after the baby she really appreciated the garden come the summer (ours was born in November). She wouldn’t want to be going far as it’s mad how much you have to take!

The plan is probably to take 4 weeks when the baby is born and then the remaining 8 months after my wife goes back to work. I'm slightly worried about what impact it will have on my career but it's too good an opportunity to turn down.

My sister kept a lot of the stuff for their baby and wont be having another. I'm pretty sure my mum and dad bought most of it, so I'll be taking what I can.

We are lucky that we have parks close by (I live very near Holyrood Park in Edinburgh). Our flat is great but has poor storage. We are struggling with just the two of us. I need to get some stuff moved on.
willesdengreen
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607 posts since 10/6/10

17 Jun 2020 07:51
has anyone made a horizontal career move out of marketing/communications?

i do really enjoy my current job but i'm not sure it's a field i want to work in my whole life, and wondering what transitions are easier than others.

unfortunately I don't have hyper specific goals for my future career, beyond a greater salary, greater responsibility, and hopefully something high-skill rather than management based.

been eye-ing up civil service roles, as a fair few entry-mid level job ads claim that no specific experience is necessarily required.
andymakesglasses
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20407 posts since 26/1/06

17 Jun 2020 08:09
Doogan wrote: Looking at the Duddingston/Mountcastle area. East Edinburgh.

Some friends have just moved to a (rented) house there. Seems nice and quiet. They've not had a run-in with the Young Niddrie Terror yet.
Trent
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1969 posts since 18/1/09

17 Jun 2020 08:13
swede wrote: got first week of august booked off work. doubt I'll be able to go anywhere. fucking SEETHING. first time I've ever used annual leave and spent it in my flat

I'm supposed to be on my stag do in Ibiza right now. My wedding and honeymoon were both cancelled. Just spent 5 days in my flat reading books and doing life admin. Loved it.
swiftus
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1152 posts since 1/7/09

26 Jun 2020 10:01
Any fukers know any decent web developers that know their way around Wordpress/WooCommerce?
Gaz
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2606 posts since 20/10/05

26 Jun 2020 11:47
Launched 50+ Wordpress websites with a fair chunk of them using Woocommerce. What is it you’re looking for?
swiftus
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1152 posts since 1/7/09

26 Jun 2020 12:35
Gaz wrote: Launched 50+ Wordpress websites with a fair chunk of them using Woocommerce. What is it you’re looking for?

Couple of bits. Creating a gift certificate product, and then a feature for customers who have a subscription order to be able to manage that.

Any help much appreciated!
kid unknown
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5403 posts since 8/12/01

26 Jun 2020 14:34
Herman Miller Aeron owners - happy with your purchase/comfort factor?