The good times are great, but it always feel like we're on a knife edge if one thing gets interpreted in the wrong way, everything just blows up. Guess it doesn't help that most communication is done via messages recently, so you miss the whole body language, tone, etc.
Will stick with it and see how it goes.
Thanks all, FUK coming through as ever.
Women want to 'feel' understood mate, hence why you'll hear the refrain 'I'm not a mind reader' so often from frustrated men. Add a language and cultural barrier in the mix and they seem even more irrational - I'm convinced the secret to any happy relationship is just accepting that women (all people really) aren't ever gonna make any sense but if you just listen to them and don't make them feel judged it all seems to work.
As it's advice thread I'll stick my current situation out there as I'm struggling a bit with this at the moment:Stay in the US or go back to the UK with a new baby?
So currently we're in the US, gonna be having a baby in a month and are in the position where we can either move back to the UK or stay here and move to NYC… Here in the US the salary is higher, but UK would have a longer pat leave and be a bit more flexible with WFH, so the toss up is between living in NYC on fairly decent wedge or moving to somewhere that can commute to London say 2 days a week but still has at least some 'cool' people our age (Margate we're thinking).
Any experiences or advice?
Recently moved back from US (albeit Dallas, not NYC) to UK for similar reasons (wife gave birth to twins, and already had a two year old
). My tour in the US was always for a fixed period but we decided to cut it a few years short.
Salary/package was better in the US but cost of living was higher than UK and wife wasn’t able to work in her chosen profession there, so became less of an issue. I’ve moved back to South West though - I’m sure NYC-London cost of living is similarly mental.
My wife wanted to return so we could be closer to family etc with the kids - I would have quite happily stayed. A bit of a shit time to be anywhere at the mo but haven’t regretted being back yet (arrived back at beginning of Nov). Not sure if that helps!