It really depends on whether or not you think she's worth the (extra) effort. The lost in translation stuff will improve over time, as will getting the humour, but there will always be some cultural differences. But for me (married to a Russian) many of those cultural differences are a positive.

I’m married to a Russian as well - took me time to get my head around that in their culture manners don’t exist

Had this once with a Moroccan girl, she was attractive and I tried to stick with it, but eventually the differences were too much to overcome.

She could speak English, but wasn't her first language and most things that I watch or listen to just went over her head, sometimes when speaking you'd also be thinking in the back of your head she doesn't understand FA!

Eventually it felt like the only thing we were both on the same page with was sex, and aside from that it didn't feel like a relationship so quite naturally it fell apart.

But best of luck and hope it works out for you.

Great advice and a little xenophobia. It’s the basics that we love in this motherfucker

Informed xenophobia if you will. No baseless accusations here….verified experienced facts only.

Classic.

Women want to 'feel' understood mate, hence why you'll hear the refrain 'I'm not a mind reader' so often from frustrated men. Add a language and cultural barrier in the mix and they seem even more irrational - I'm convinced the secret to any happy relationship is just accepting that women (all people really) aren't ever gonna make any sense but if you just listen to them and don't make them feel judged it all seems to work.

As it's advice thread I'll stick my current situation out there as I'm struggling a bit with this at the moment:

Stay in the US or go back to the UK with a new baby?

So currently we're in the US, gonna be having a baby in a month and are in the position where we can either move back to the UK or stay here and move to NYC… Here in the US the salary is higher, but UK would have a longer pat leave and be a bit more flexible with WFH, so the toss up is between living in NYC on fairly decent wedge or moving to somewhere that can commute to London say 2 days a week but still has at least some 'cool' people our age (Margate we're thinking).

Any experiences or advice?

depending on how #decent that difference in wedge is and what it translates into regarding quality of life/life goals (is money the #1 goal?)

as cool as NYC is; really don't see the appeal of actually living there. it is fucking dirty, expensive, gridlocked and seriously shit in winter. outdoor space is really limited - even compared with london. margate is cheap and cool af

think Nigelbenn on here did the move to NYC

Recently moved back from US (albeit Dallas, not NYC) to UK for similar reasons (wife gave birth to twins, and already had a two year old ). My tour in the US was always for a fixed period but we decided to cut it a few years short.

Salary/package was better in the US but cost of living was higher than UK and wife wasn’t able to work in her chosen profession there, so became less of an issue. I’ve moved back to South West though - I’m sure NYC-London cost of living is similarly mental.

My wife wanted to return so we could be closer to family etc with the kids - I would have quite happily stayed. A bit of a shit time to be anywhere at the mo but haven’t regretted being back yet (arrived back at beginning of Nov). Not sure if that helps!