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joeyjojo
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4440 posts since 24/8/06

16 Jan 2021 09:19
MrW wrote:
MerciBeau wrote: so the toss up is between living in NYC on fairly decent wedge or moving to somewhere that can commute to London say 2 days a week but still has at least some 'cool' people our age (Margate we're thinking).

Choice between NYC and Margate is like choosing between Maldives or Isle of Sheppey Laughing out loud

Lived a stones throw from Margate for 20+ years (in Broadstairs), moved away for 15, came back 4-5 years ago since it's become 'hip' and live close by (Sandwich). Margate is as much of a shithole as it ever was, just now there are loads of Barley-esque DFLs making out they've discovered paradise because they can do yoga on the beach and go wild swimming in Walpole bay tidal pool. By all means there are some cracking coastal towns on the south coast, but would not say Margate comes close to being at the bottom of the list.

FWIW, the 15 years I moved away, I was living in St Leonards on Sea. Would choose that place over Margate all day long.

Couldn’t agree more, most of those towns on that Kent coast are still rough even though they’ve become cool! Also so different in the depths of a grey winter compared to summer.
Why not move to London MerciBeau? A bit more in line with the lifestyle you’d get in USA? Or just move to New York! It’ll be cool to live there for a few years at least.
TheConductor
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4260 posts since 17/11/09

17 Jan 2021 10:28
gaffer wrote:
TheConductor wrote: Has anyone bought the Samsung The Serif 2020? Tempted by the 43" and wondered what people thought of it.

Got one being delivered in the next couple of days, will let you know my thoughts if you haven't already pulled the trigger before it gets here.
That'd be great.

I stupidly slept on the re-stock - almost ordered one last night but did the I'll just do it in the morning - I went to pull the trigger this morning on John Lewis and it's out of stock again Laughing out loud
sofashionmuchamaze
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838 posts since 12/12/13

17 Jan 2021 12:15
Looking to buy a house and want to try some different colors and materials for the floor and walls mainly, maybe try some furniture options. Has anyone used 3D tools for this? Is the IKEA thing good or are there better options? I don't mind paying a bit.
toiler
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153 posts since 4/5/09

posted 17 Jan 2021 12:29, edited 17 Jan 2021 12:29
Also from south east (Canterbury) and completely agree with MrW, Margate’s cool for a day out in the summer and there’s bits going on. Go and have a look mid winter (even pre lockdown) and you’ll change your mind.
NigelBenn
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4310 posts since 6/2/08

17 Jan 2021 13:41
PM me if you like Mercibeau. I’m in NYC and expecting a little girl in June.
swiftus
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1296 posts since 1/7/09

18 Jan 2021 14:30
Fläsket wrote:
swiftus wrote: Thanks all, FUK coming through as ever.

The good times are great, but it always feel like we're on a knife edge if one thing gets interpreted in the wrong way, everything just blows up. Guess it doesn't help that most communication is done via messages recently, so you miss the whole body language, tone, etc.

Will stick with it and see how it goes.

Fill your boots with it!

I was with a French bird for three years. All the cultural differences and humor kept it quite enjoyable and exciting. Her English was worse than my French so we spoke French together. Spent most of the time at hers in a Paris suburb, but she came back to the midwest to do an internship at the university I went to and it was quite the eye opener for her Laughing out loud

Did you see it as a potentially long-term thing, or did you know from the off that it was good for that moment in time?
MerciBeau
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4337 posts since 7/7/06

18 Jan 2021 14:43
joeyjojo wrote:
MrW wrote:
MerciBeau wrote: so the toss up is between living in NYC on fairly decent wedge or moving to somewhere that can commute to London say 2 days a week but still has at least some 'cool' people our age (Margate we're thinking).

Choice between NYC and Margate is like choosing between Maldives or Isle of Sheppey Laughing out loud

Lived a stones throw from Margate for 20+ years (in Broadstairs), moved away for 15, came back 4-5 years ago since it's become 'hip' and live close by (Sandwich). Margate is as much of a shithole as it ever was, just now there are loads of Barley-esque DFLs making out they've discovered paradise because they can do yoga on the beach and go wild swimming in Walpole bay tidal pool. By all means there are some cracking coastal towns on the south coast, but would not say Margate comes close to being at the bottom of the list.

FWIW, the 15 years I moved away, I was living in St Leonards on Sea. Would choose that place over Margate all day long.

Couldn’t agree more, most of those towns on that Kent coast are still rough even though they’ve become cool! Also so different in the depths of a grey winter compared to summer.
Why not move to London MerciBeau? A bit more in line with the lifestyle you’d get in USA? Or just move to New York! It’ll be cool to live there for a few years at least.

Feel like I've kind of had my fill of London after 10 years there, plus all my London mates don't have kids, whereas down in Margate I have some good friends who do.
Hanto
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2624 posts since 30/11/09

posted 18 Jan 2021 14:49, edited 18 Jan 2021 14:49
If you want to know what it's like living in a coastal town, PM me. Not 'cool' like Margate, but live near Chichester, which is about 1hr 45 mins from London Victoria/London Bridge.

Lot to do round here for social activity, but the winter can be pretty dead.

Living by the beach is Ubercool when you have this view 200yrds from your doorstep.


Might be a bit sleepy but Rye/Dungeness I found great. Not sure what it's like to live there, but you can change at Ashford Int I think for the train. Whatever you do, avoid Hastings!

Lewes is nice as well, with Brighton about 10 mins on train, but more of a train and has character.
MoB
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37041 posts since 31/8/04

18 Jan 2021 16:13
No shouts for Whitstable?
Rez
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8393 posts since 5/4/09

posted 18 Jan 2021 16:14, edited 18 Jan 2021 16:14
rye is cool, gallivant worth a stay if you've got some cash burning a hole in your pocket

am well aware that I am one of those nathan barley dickheads mentioned earlier but had a great time staying in margate this summer.
R
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13192 posts since 17/5/03

18 Jan 2021 16:39
when did margate turn cool? not taking piss
Rez
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8393 posts since 5/4/09

posted 18 Jan 2021 16:55, edited 18 Jan 2021 16:55
people who want to cash out of London/can't get on the ladder there or want more for their money, now also priced out of brighton and soon places like hastings, looking for other places by the sea with decent links still into the city.
Hanto
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2624 posts since 30/11/09

18 Jan 2021 16:57
The regeneration of the seafront with the Turner gallery etc was part of it. It's basically what every coastal tries to do in some capacity, to try and make the economy less like St Ives on one end, or Bognor Regis on the other.
Rez
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8393 posts since 5/4/09

18 Jan 2021 16:58
I'd personally rather go to a place by the sea if I get sick of London, rather than move to the commuter belt, latter seems like too much of a halfway house to me.
swede
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9379 posts since 21/3/09

18 Jan 2021 17:02
dungeness Laughing out loud great to visit but surely not somewhere you would choose to raise a young child?

would avoid greatstone too… (just because it is scally af)
R
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13192 posts since 17/5/03

18 Jan 2021 17:03
Hanto wrote: The regeneration of the seafront with the Turner gallery etc was part of it. It's basically what every coastal tries to do in some capacity, to try and make the economy less like St Ives on one end, or Bognor Regis on the other.

thanks!
RickRude
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3758 posts since 13/1/12

posted 18 Jan 2021 17:03, edited 18 Jan 2021 17:03
Bexhill seemed nice - stairway to heaven and all that but really clean place and no townie riff raff from what I've seen.

Depends what you want in life.
Hanto
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2624 posts since 30/11/09

18 Jan 2021 18:12
swede wrote: dungeness Laughing out loud great to visit but surely not somewhere you would choose to raise a young child?

would avoid greatstone too… (just because it is scally af)

What's wrong with growing up by a power station? Eye-wink

I mean the area in general. Winchelsea would be a much more village like place to be.
MrW
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2928 posts since 1/8/11

18 Jan 2021 18:39
Don't underestimate the importance of decent education options and proximity to family. Might need to consider age of parents and what happens when they get old and less able. Work it all through, thinking ahead as far as you can, and considering others needs over yours, before jumping for a short term dream.

Sounds obvious and dull af, but will prevent major headaches and stress later down the line.
Rez
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8393 posts since 5/4/09

posted 18 Jan 2021 18:54, edited 18 Jan 2021 18:54
to be honest education options in these areas are often not that great at all, massive overinvestment in London and cities have meant they outperform even in an areas of high deprivation, whereas a lot of schools in coastal and rural places have been left behind in terms of expectations. Will probably change in the coming years though as gentrification brings in a new talent pool.